When I support people with relationship issues it's often the case that communication has fell away from classic adult communication. We say that adult communication is being assertive, honest, time appropriate, and expressing your wants and needs.
When I work with individuals and couples often the communication style has slipped to being somewhat in a child form (passive and needs to not being met) and this often mixed with parts of more parent (being aggressive and dominating).
Remember to practice self compassion and go easy on yourself when you recognise you may have slipped into these more disempowered patterns.
Major things can shift when we practice being in adult mode always. Remember though it takes two to tango so to speak and it is vital the other person communicates like an adult too. Stay committed to this form but recognise if the other person is playing ball too and ;learn to address your new expectations.
When I work with individuals and couples often the communication style has slipped to being somewhat in a child form (passive and needs to not being met) and this often mixed with parts of more parent (being aggressive and dominating).
Remember to practice self compassion and go easy on yourself when you recognise you may have slipped into these more disempowered patterns.
Major things can shift when we practice being in adult mode always. Remember though it takes two to tango so to speak and it is vital the other person communicates like an adult too. Stay committed to this form but recognise if the other person is playing ball too and ;learn to address your new expectations.
